Thursday, September 20, 2012

Booby Trapp Corset Custom Corset Giveaway!

My Husband Ate All My Ice Cream is celebrating her 2 year blog-o-versary this week! To celebrate, she's holding a giveaway event for a custom, made-to-measure corset from Booby Trapp Corsets in England! Here is her review on the one she received!

I have a million corsets. It's kind of like an obsession. I don't even remember how it happened, but one day I stumbled across this Facebook page (if you clicked the link, make sure to like the page and tell her 'My Husband Ate All My Ice Cream' sent you!), and I fell in love. Then I realized... I have all these corsets sitting around, but I don't LOVE any of them. There's some sort of issue with each one, whether it be ill-fitting, not very good quality, no modesty panel (the fabric panel that is behind the laces), etc. And while they were cute, none really gave me that figure I was looking for. I messaged the company, and asked about doing a review of one, just to see what the difference, if any, there really was when a corset was handmade, and made custom to your measurements. It was totally by surprise that she agreed, and even said she'd do a giveaway for one as well!

Some of the styles available from Booby Trapp Corsets
Then came the painstaking part. I had to decide what I wanted! She has a TON of options as far as cut, style, and fabrics:

This isn't even all of the options. She gets in all kinds of fabric all the time, and some, she only has enough to do ONE corset in. So you'd be the only person in the whole world with a corset of that fabric!

I sent her my measurements, and picked the shape of the corset I wanted from the site. I was worried though, because I picked a longer style (The Renaissance), and I'm only five feet tall, and I was worried it would be too long. But... it was no problem. Since each corset is handmade, she just used the style I wanted, and shortened it up a bit! Then came the wait... she had to make it, and it had to ship all the way from England. I was thrilled when she sent me pictures when it was all done, but it did NOT do the corset justice at all!

You guys, I can not even BELIEVE the quality of this thing. First, it has real steel boning in it, which means that it is sturdy. Then, the fabric is NOTHING like the ones you get from lingerie stores. This is much more elegant. The satin is like the fabric you would see on an expensive wedding dress. You can even tell just by holding it that it isn't cheaply made. It's heavy, just like a well made dress, and you know it's going to do the job. Being handmade, you'd expect to see a loose thread here or there. I inspected it thoroughly and couldn't find a SINGLE one. I even pulled at the seams to see how sturdy it was and it didn't budge. In the pic above, on the bottom row, check out the third picture. That is the inside of the corset. That band is on both sides of the corset, right at your natural waistline, and it really helps to give you that corset figure you are looking for. Don't believe me?

This is what it looks like on me totally unlaced:

Here is what it looks like totally laced up:

Huge difference, right? And it was so much more comfortable than the cheap corsets too. I could also tell a huge difference in what it did for my waist and cleavage, compared to the cheap ones. One cool thing is the way they lace up. Instead of the lacing going all the way from the top to the bottom, they meet in the middle. This way, you can tighten it up from the top, and the bottom separately, ensuring that your fit is going to be perfect. She also sent me (as a surprise) an underbust corset to try out as well. I was a little nervous, because I had never worn one, and didn't really know what to think. I learned one thing really quick though: It's a lot easier to get an underbust corset REALLY tight (thank you hubby).

I think the nicest thing about corsets, besides the fact that they can make any figure look gorgeous, is that they are so universal when it comes to fashion. They can easily be dressed up or down to accommodate for any occasion.

Ladies, if you love corsets as much as I do, I am urging you to save up to buy a corset from Booby Trapp Corsets. If I could trade in the whole collection of corsets I have and only have a couple corsets from Booby Trapp Corsets instead, I would do it in a heartbeat. For the cost of a couple of the cheap ones, you can have an amazing one.

One of you isn't going to have to wait until you can save up though, because Booby Trapp Corsets is giving one of you a chance to win one! The giveaway starts today, and will end on October 2, 2012, at 11:59 PM. The lucky winner will get to customize their very own made-to-order (or 'bespoke', as they call it overseas) corset! It's super easy to enter, and all entries will be verified before a winner is announced! If you don't see the rafflecopter form below, just refresh the page!

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Wednesday, August 22, 2012

I'd like to thank...

YOU GUYS! I posted on Facebook and begged you guys to vote for me, so that I could win the SexIs Magazine Writing Contest for my article So, You Read 'Fifty Shades' and Now You Want to Be a Sub... and you guys pulled through! I didn't win the Grand Prize, but I got second runner up. That means I won a gift basket with all these awesome toys:

Edenfantasys Tote Bag

Edenfantasys Toy and Body Wipes

LELO Personal Moisturizer

PicoBong Kiki Clitoral Stimulator

PicoBong Kaya Rabbit Vibrator

PicoBong Zizo Traditional Vibrator

Beginner Anal Kit

How awesome is that? I'm so excited to get them. If you guys haven't 'liked' my Facebook page yet, make sure you do it, because I have something AWESOME to announce when I get 1,000 fans on there!

Friday, July 27, 2012

Cheating Part Two

This is the follow up post to Part One.

Cheating is something that has the power to destroy families, relationships and lives. No one wants to be on the cheated end and cheaters have a (rightfully) bad name. Is there ever a time when cheating is acceptable? Some people think so. Do I? No. Am I being a hypocrite here? Absolutely.

Because, right now, I'm the cheater. I know exactly how I would feel if I was being cheated on but I feel powerless to resist. And I know damn well people will say well duh skank keep your fucking legs closed! Duh! Yeah turns out it's not that easy.

Have you ever been on a diet and all you can think about is that one certain thing you KNOW damn well you absolutely cannot have? And you keep resisting and resisting until it's all you can think about? Yeah we all know that feeling even if it's not a food. I am not making excuses only telling you how I feel.

If you haven't read Part One I highly suggest you do so, it gives you the background info for this post.

Basically I'm being selfish and also torturing myself at the same time. The man I've loved for over a year is moving halfway across the country and I am taking what I can get while I can get it. I don't feel any guilt about it either. Horrible admission, but it's the truth. When I'm with him and he's holding me everything is right in my world. I don't want my partner to touch me. I only want the one I'll call "Andrew".

Yeah, yeah, I know I'm a horrible person. Turns out I couldn't care less. So why stay with him if he isn't the one I want? Because I can't have the one I do for keeps and at least there is SOMETHING here I suppose. Or at least that's my answer when I'm being truthful with myself. So why write this and open myself up to insults and condemnation as well as judgement? Simple answer: Because I NEED to.

I need to tell someone (even faceless, nameless internet people) what is going on. I think I'd explode if I couldn't write it all out lol.

Back on subject! Cheating is a taboo for a reason. It's one (or more) acts or decisions that can cost you everything. My philosophy is generally that its not worth it to risk your relationship, family or the way your life is for a few moments (or hours) of pleasure. I know that being cheated on makes you question yourself and everything else. Most people it happens to tend to have some serious issues because of it and serious questioning of themselves. Most don't think right from the beginning that hey he/she cheated on me? Well they are a douchetastic twatwaffle and didn't deserve me anyhow! No, we think why? What did I do or not do? Why am I not enough?

The answer is it had nothing to do with you. Its a hugely selfish thing, cheating. Most of the time it's a cheap thrill. You have issues in your relationship and its easy to get it elsewhere. What they don't know won't hurt them, right? Wrong! It will hurt eventually because it comes out sooner or later. And even if you do manage to keep your indiscretion under wraps will you be able to live with it? Can you keep your actions normal?

So here's my question, why would you cheat? Would you ever feel it was ok or justifiable?

** I was told it seemed like Part One didn't have an end (by "Justin"). I told him that it pretty much depended on him, that I'm not the one leaving. I suppose that's not the whole truth. It does depend on him as well but whether he stays or goes this whole experience has shown me that I am really not happy where I am at. And with or without "Justin" I need to make myself happy. So I won't be a serial cheater, I'll be moving on.**

Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Cheating: Part One

As I type this my lover has just left my house. I mean lover in the most literal sense of the word. A person I love emotionally as well as physically. And I'm going to talk about one of the biggest taboos.

You see I already have a mate. But my lover (we'll call him Justin for the purpose of this post) is someone who I am unable to stay away from. I have been cheated on and have cheated in the past. Every new relationship I jump right in, feet first and I'm sure (at least in the beginning) that this will be The One. You know what I mean, right? The One is who you will grow old with, marry and have babies (if you are so inclined and able). But then eventually things change. I make no excuses for my behavior. But let me back up a minute here. To really understand you need to know about "Justin" and how things happened with him.

It all started way back around the end of November/beginning of December 2010. I had just gotten out of a bad relationship and I knew I wasn't ready for another so I decided to just play around and have fun. This began my online "dating" (I use the term loosely as I wasn't on any of the real dating sites only hookup sites) period. But most of that is part of another story. So I had been online and I started talking to a few people. I was learning the ropes so to speak. I had gotten a little taste of what was what. I had met someone for casual sex as well as had what I like to refer to as a whirlwind casual love affair. Do you know what I mean? Where you meet someone online and immediately set to knowing everything about each other (sexual things and non-sexual alike). Well I was incredibly horny and the internet thing was nice but I really needed some in person contact.

I was online on my hookup site checking people out and responding to messages. And that was the first time I talked to "Justin". Now I can't remember who messaged who first (though I remember his screenname) but we were talking on the site's Instant Message chat and I asked him to switch to Yahoo Instant Messenger where we continued to talk for hours. We shared some pics and got to know each other. I felt an instant connection with him from the beginning. He made me laugh and was just interesting. We had different schedules and decided we would just have a Friends With Benefits (FWB) relationship. Just whenever we could get together we would if we both felt like it.

We weren't able to actually get together until New Year's Eve day but we talked every day (almost all day) leading up to that. We got to be friends before we ever even met. He was an early bird while I was a night owl but that didn't stop us. I even got up super early just for him the first time we actually got together. That first time was great and we actually ended up just hanging out and chilling for like 3 hours AFTER we had sex. We kept on talking all day every day. I am generally very good at keeping emotions out of purely sexual relationships but I still considered him a great friend. When I was stuck at work due to a freak blizzard (2 months after we had started talking) he was the one I called with the very last of my phone battery.

Time went on and we kept on talking, getting together a few times. It was more difficult for him to be able to see me because he had so much going on. Weekends were bad because he had his kids and with our schedules weekdays were bad too. But we made due with what time we had. Around the time I got stuck at work (I can't remember exactly when lol) he told me he had started having feelings for me. Now I considered him a great friend but I was making damn sure that I wasn't gettin any ideas into my head about anything more. I was kinda shocked and yes, scared. I of all people knew how hard it was for him to find time for anything. And he wasn't really ready to be in a relationship. He'd just gotten through a nasty divorce and was trying to really rebuild his life. So we both kinda procrastinated and let things ride for a while. Eventually I knew I wanted more from us, I wanted to be with him. Every time he texted me or called I smiled and just lit up I was so happy. But he was still skittish and the one time we got together (around the beginning of March 2011) after we had said anything about feelings and had talked by text about a relationship a little, he pretty much ran off as soon as we got done having sex. Now that kind of upset me a little.

But I got over it quick, I knew he was scared and honestly, so was I. We kept talking as we always had and neither of us really pressed the issue of "more". Around the end of March a friend hooked me up with her brother. I thought it was another sex only thing at the beginning though I learned pretty quick he wanted a relationship and considered us together. I was still strung out over "Justin" and he was who I really wanted. But I also was sick of being single and sex only relationships. So I talked to "Justin" and tried to push him to admit what he wanted. Yeah that worked incredibly well, could you guess? Instead he backed off and told me to give the other guy a real chance. There was also another incident that happened then that affected me, the new guy and "Justin" which made "Justin" pretty upset but that's yet another story lol.

The new guy, I'll call him "Todd", had moved back to the area from a bigger town and was pretty much staying with me. I was still talking to "Justin" and he was still the one I really wanted but when he insisted on staying out of the picture I really did give "Todd" a chance. Time went on and things with "Todd" were a rollercoaster. He had just been through a bad breakup and was acting shady. Anyhow, he ended up moving back to where he came from and I would go see him every weekend. I also moved from my place to my sister's due to some longer term plans we had going.

"Justin" was pretty upset about that. I was more upset when he told me he had slept with someone else. I felt like my heart was broken. And yes, I realize I was with someone else and sleeping with them but I still wanted "Justin". Don't get me wrong I loved the new guy, in a way, but no one can replace someone else. I was going to move to be with "Todd" when I caught him in a lie. I eventually ended things with him and "Justin" and I agreed to try a relationship. We just couldn't seem to physically get together and he's admitted that he didn't prioritize me enough. He tried a few times to tell me I deserved better and that he couldn't be what I wanted and needed him to be but I refused to listen and instead kept convincing him I was happy with whatever we could manage to have. After a while he cut me off. Just poof disappeared and didn't answer anything I sent him.

At that point I went and met someone who I considered another friend that I'd been talking to for a while from the hookup site. We had a great weekend and I went back for my vacation a few weeks later.I thought he was everything I wanted and I eventually decided to move up there and be with him. I was a HUGE mess! Like couldn't make up my mind about anything, only knew that I had to move somewhere so I figured why not take the chance. The day I was set to move I finally heard back from "Justin". He sent me a 3 page text saying he was sorry but he couldn't do it, he couldn't keep disappointing me like he had been. Honestly I was an emotional basket case anyhow and was bawling and can't remember if I even replied or just ignored it.

I moved as planned. Things were great for a little while. Then things went south with the new guy. So now I'm depressed, living alone in BFE with no friends and no one to even talk to most of the time except my dad and my online friends. And I still couldn't get "Justin" off my mind. I had blocked him from the hookup site when I moved because I know myself well and knew I would keep stalking and messaging him on there. So I unblocked him and sent him a message (Or five haha) as well as texted him. I finally heard back from him and knew things were different in his life and he would be able to actually have a relationship now. This was all in September of 2011 (I still have the texts). We talked quite a bit and he told me he missed me and that he wanted to really try to have a relationship with me. I was kind of wary but said we would talk about it when I came back home in a couple of months. He stopped talking to me again shortly after that. 

When I came back in Novemeber I emailed him but I got no response. A friend ended up setting me up with one of her friends while I was here and things got pretty serious between me and him. (In about 4 days we'll have been together 8 months). He asked me to stay and I did. I finally heard back from "Justin" in January and we have been talking ever since. He was kinda upset he hadn't checked the email before then. We've spent a lot of time talking and I've tried to figure things out. I've never really gotten over him for some reason and I still love him. 

A couple of months ago he told me he's following his dream and moving to the other side of the country. When he told me that I was devastated. I suppose I should tell you that things aren't all that great with my current partner and blah blah blah but I don't even want to get into that. It comes down to "Justin" and that I still love him and I think I always will. I've considered leaving my partner quite a few times. So my decision to cheat is kind of two fold: I don't have much to lose anyhow, and I can't resist or deny "Justin". This is really my last chance to have some kind of anything with him. So I'm taking what I can get. We've been together twice recently and he's so amazing. Tonight was fantastic, he was tender and loving. We can and do talk for hours about a good range of subjects. I have less than a week to be able to even be somewhat close to him and you can villainize me if you'd like but what it comes down to is I love the man, and I would do ANYTHING he asked me to (not that he asked this, it was kind of something that we both decided and in a way are powerless to deny). 

Any rude/mean comments will be deleted, thanks for reading.

Thursday, July 19, 2012

What What in the butt?

I thought I'd jump in and just say what I want to say instead of worrying about offending you. With the last couple of posts I was trying to try to gauge y'alls reactions but that didn't really work out well for me.

So like anyone I've gone through finding myself sexually and things I like and dislike. Some things that I felt or believed were "bad" or not something one should do are now some of my favorite things. Anal for instance. I didn't have a whole lot of being talked to about sex and what I knew was mostly from friends or what I learned from stealing my dad's porn or wherever else stupid kids find shit out. 

I'm a very sexual person and I started VERY young. SO young that most people would be shocked and probably appalled though that is a story for another time, perhaps. 

I also started "dating" pretty young though it was what we called "going out with". When I was 14 I was with a guy who was 3 years older than me. He is who really started me on my sexual journey. My first real partner that I was with more than once. We actually ended being together until right before I turned 17 though like most teen relationships things were very off and on again. But I digress, this isn't really that story either. 

Instead I'm gonna tell you about the second taboo thing I did in my young life (I'm not sure I'm ready to tell the first yet, lol). I had anal sex. Now let me tell you, I'm absolutely disgusted by bodily functions and refuse to talk about any of it generally. So as you can imagine, I was pretty disgusted when he told me he wanted to put it in my butt. I was like um WHAT? But after trying some anal play and him assuring me he would go slow and I would be ok and would actually love it, I gave in. 

I still thought it was disgusting and that he was weird and/or a freak, I mean people don't do that kinda thing right? Wrong! People do, do that kind of thing. And you know what? With a good partner and the right preparations it can be absolutely amazing! The point of this story is that just because you think something is Taboo or not done; that you'd have to be weird or wrong to do it or enjoy it, chances are it's not bad at all. 

So how did it go you may wonder? It was embarrassing and painful at first but after a while I ended up loving it and it became something we did a lot for the rest of our relationship.

**I am not advocating sex with minors in any way at all, only telling you what has happened in my life**

Tuesday, July 17, 2012

Taboo 2

According to Wikipedia A taboo is a vehement prohibition of an action based on the belief that such behavior is either too sacred or too accursed for ordinary individuals to undertake, under threat of supernatural punishment. 

That's not really what I think about when I think Taboo. I think of it more as taboo is something that is not readily accepted of by society in general, something that isn't talked about. So, going by the way I think, lots of things are taboo (depending on what type of friends you have and what types of people you are generally around). 

A lot of my friends are very open and will talk about anything sexual and are happy to tell you all about their sex lives and their likes/dislikes while some of my friends don't want to talk about anything remotely sexual and think PDA is akin to walking around with your butt crack and muffin top hanging out.

I'd say some of the biggest taboos sexually are incest, BDSM, Watersports (Golden Showers), Scat play (think 2 Girls One Cup), Bestiality, and age play. Some people also consider homosexuality a taboo though I'm not going to get into that! 

Here's my question: What if we could all just tolerate or be open to everything sexually as long as there are no moral issues you have with whatever the act is, provided it is between two consenting human adults? Don't get me wrong here I AM in no way shape or form saying please go fuck your dog, cat or whatever other animal you may have in mind and I would NEVER EVER say to have sex with a kid. I'm just saying that there are lots of things that you may find enjoyable that society frowns upon or poo-poos. 

So what do you say? Are any of your kinks a taboo? 

Monday, July 16, 2012

What is Taboo?

There are so many different fetishes out there it's hard to say just what is and isn't taboo anymore. I suppose it mostly depends on the person though society still has things it considers taboo. Interracial relationships used to be taboo and now they are very commonplace for instance. Anal sex as mentioned in an earlier post is still considered taboo by a great number of people. What about BDSM? Would you consider that taboo? As far as I'm concerned we all have our own kinks and we should do what we like as long as it isn't harming anyone else. Leave a comment and tell me what you think!

Thursday, January 19, 2012

A Valentine's Present for you!

My friend over at My Husband Ate All My Ice Cream just reached her goal of 1,000 fans on Facebook.  To celebrate, she is hosting a 1K giveaway!  Since Valentine's Day is coming up, she's giving away a gift basket full of items from Edenfantasys!  She isn't telling what is in the gift basket, but mentioned that it will be at least four things, and more if there are a lot of entries in the giveaway.

Also, she mentioned this:

"For each and every one of you:  From now until Valentine's Day, you can use code TUE during checkout to get 15% off everything you order from Edenfantasys, including toys for men, toys for womenlingerie, and their new beauty and body products!  And if you save your order number, you can get 25 entries into the giveaway! (But you don't have to place an order to enter.)"

So hurry up and get your entries in before January 30th at Midnight CST!  Just follow along with the rafflecopter widget below, and get up to 41 entries into the contest!

And check out Masshole Mandi and My Husband Ate All My Ice Cream for more entries!

Monday, January 2, 2012

Who doesn't love chocolate?

It's rare when a flavored sex product ACTUALLY tastes like it says it's going to.  I recently received some of this Lickable Chocolate Body Glaze from Edenfantasys, and to say the least, I was really skeptical.

But after trying it, I swear, I could just eat it.... no body licking required.  You can read my whole experience with the product right here.

Have you ever tried anything like this?  Did you like it?