So it's no wonder that anal sex is so taboo. Generally, there are three main reasons that people give for not wanting to try it:
1. It's not clean.
2. It will hurt.
3. I'm not gay.
Let's start with the first one, shall we? Unless you imminently have to take a crap, there is nothing incredibly messy in the area that will be penetrated. So as long as you make sure to empty your bowels, you have nothing to worry about. Another less common way to go about this is an anal enema or douche. Some people use water (not a laxative) in an enema to gently clean that area if they know that they are going to be having anal sex. With that being said, however, one that that should never be done is switching between anal sex and vaginal sex without cleaning off first. Despite the fact that they are so close together, the two orifices have different bacteria and pH systems going on. Switching back and forth with out cleaning up first can result in infection. Same thing goes for any toys that you put in there as well.
Your first anal sex experience will probably be like your first beer. You're going to pucker up, and say "OMG! Never again!" (Unless you are pretty drunk.... but then if you try to do it sober, it's going to be a HUGE wake-up call.) Anal sex, well, being on the receiving end of anal sex is an acquired talent. But the benefits outweigh the work it takes to get there. There are a few ways to get around this initial pain. The first, and best, is to just learn to relax the rectal muscles. If you aren't clenching, it won't hurt. This does take some practice though. The second thing is a MUST: You can never have enough lube. They say that all things are good in moderation, but I believe there is an exception when it comes to anal sex. Moderation is not good enough. There are a plethora of anal lubes on the market. You want to look for one that doesn't get sticky (none of those flavored ones), and stay away from the ones that 'numb' your rectum and surrounding area. There is a reason why your body feels pain. It means that something isn't right. And when you use a numbing lube to dull that sensation, you run the risk of tearing the sensitive tissue in there. Two anal lubes that have great ratings are System JO H20 Anal Lubricant, and Sliquid Sassy Booty Formula.
Now, this one mostly applies to men. You don't have to be gay to enjoy receiving anal sex. The only thing that would classify you as gay is being attracted to males. If your significant other is asking to do it to you, it probably means it will turn her on. And, once you learn how to relax, it will turn you on too. Have you ever hear of the p-spot? It's the male equivalent of the g-spot on women. And yes, it really exists. And... it feels REALLY good when it's stimulated. Have you ever wanted to have multiple orgasms during one sex session, like women can? With p-spot stimulation, it's possible. And there are even actual health benefits from stimulating your prostate. According to an article on LIVESTRONG.com:
ImpotenceImpotence is generally defined as the inability to achieve an erection. Prostate massage can help men overcome impotence by stimulating the flow of seminal fluid and increasing circulation, according to ChecktheProstate.com.Providing you learn how to relax, and you use plenty of lube, and keep an open mind, you men out there have the potential to completely transform your sex life. There is of course a method to this whole p-spot massage thing though, just like there is to anal sex. There are a few ways to go about it. One way is with a prostate massager that is specifically designed to stimulate the right areas. If you would like to read a great post how you can achieve a 'super-orgasm' with a prostate massager, check out Prostate Massagers and the Super Orgasm.
Pain / SwellingA swollen prostate gland can be quite uncomfortable. Every time you sit down, pressure will build around the prostate. Regular prostate massage can help reduce swelling by releasing fluids and stimulating blood flow through the area. If you have been diagnosed with prostate cancer, consult with a licensed therapist and your doctor before trying prostate massage.
Improved EjaculationThe intensity of your ejaculation can be improved through prostate massage. Many men report heightened sexual experiences when the prostate is stimulated, and regular massage can create an "exploding" ejaculation, according to Outsidehealth.net.
Increased Urine FlowEnlargement of the prostate gland is one cause of difficulty with urine flow, according to the University of Maryland Medical Center. The reduction of pressure from released fluids during prostate massage can help get urine flow back to normal.
The bottom (no pun intended) line is this: The anus and rectal area is riddled with sensitive nerve endings. You don't have to be a masochist to enjoy anal sex. It can actually feel good. The chicks in porn movies aren't faking it. (Well, they might be.... but they certainly aren't being injured.) If you are interested in trying anal sex, or maybe ready to try it again, I highly recommend that you buy Jessica Drake's Guide to Wicked Sex: Anal
Hopefully you have learned a thing or two from this article, and anal sex is at least a little less taboo for you.
Tessa Taboo ~xoxo~