Thursday, December 8, 2011

Happy Fucking Holidays!

No pun intended.... no really... I promise!

If I was to mention holiday lingerie, you'd probably imagine some sort of variation of a Mrs. Claus type thing, right?  Red, with some white edges.... maybe a little fluffy skirt... the typical stuff.  Well, check these babies out:

Satin Snowman Dress- How freaking cute is it that the halter strap is the scarf?

Flocked Damask Corset -  How hot would this little number be, paired with a skirt, for a New Year's Eve party?

Fishnet Santa Romper -  Mrs. Claus..... in FISHNET!  Could it get any hotter?  I wonder if that belt doubles as a whip?!

Miss Snowflake - Satin? Fur? (Fake, of course!).... what else could you want in holiday lingerie?

Right now, Edenfantasys has all of these sexy outfits, and a bunch more ways you can bring holiday cheer to the bedroom.  And you still have plenty of time to order if you want to receive them before Christmas.  

Already bought your holiday lingerie, but need an accessory?  Here's something perfect:

Made out of pyrex glass, the Sweet Candy Cane glass dildo makes a perfect accessory to any holiday lingerie!

Do you get into the whole holiday lingerie thing?  Which one of the above is your favorite?

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

The winner of the giveaway is....

On the giveaway post, there were 10 qualified entries.  I used to choose a number, and the winner is:

Coleen McNeil!!!  Please email me at with your shipping address.  Congratulations!  

Sunday, December 4, 2011

Stop clenching your a** cheeks!

The anus is probably the most taboo part on your body.  For most, if you have a problem with any other part, you run to the doctor.  But not for the back door... oh no.  Unless it's life or death, you aren't letting ANYONE poke and prod back there.

So it's no wonder that anal sex is so taboo.  Generally, there are three main reasons that people give for not wanting to try it:

1. It's not clean.
2. It will hurt.
3. I'm not gay.

Let's start with the first one, shall we?  Unless you imminently have to take a crap, there is nothing incredibly messy in the area that will be penetrated.  So as long as you make sure to empty your bowels, you have nothing to worry about.  Another less common way to go about this is an anal enema or douche.  Some people use water (not a laxative) in an enema to gently clean that area if they know that they are going to be having anal sex.  With that being said, however, one that that should never be done is switching between anal sex and vaginal sex without cleaning off first.  Despite the fact that they are so close together, the two orifices have different bacteria and pH systems going on.  Switching back and forth with out cleaning up first can result in infection.  Same thing goes for any toys that you put in there as well.

 Your first anal sex experience will probably be like your first beer.  You're going to pucker up, and say "OMG! Never again!" (Unless you are pretty drunk.... but then if you try to do it sober, it's going to be a HUGE wake-up call.)  Anal sex, well, being on the receiving end of anal sex is an acquired talent.  But the benefits outweigh the work it takes to get there.  There are a few ways to get around this initial pain.  The first, and best, is to just learn to relax the rectal muscles.  If you aren't clenching, it won't hurt.  This does take some practice though.  The second thing is a MUST:  You can never have enough lube.  They say that all things are good in moderation, but I believe there is an exception when it comes to anal sex.  Moderation is not good enough.  There are a plethora of anal lubes on the market.  You want to look for one that doesn't get sticky (none of those flavored ones), and stay away from the ones that 'numb' your rectum and surrounding area.  There is a reason why your body feels pain.  It means that something isn't right.  And when you use a numbing lube to dull that sensation, you run the risk of tearing the sensitive tissue in there.  Two anal lubes that have great ratings are System JO H20 Anal Lubricant, and Sliquid Sassy Booty Formula.

Now, this one mostly applies to men. You don't have to be gay to enjoy receiving anal sex.  The only thing that would classify you as gay is being attracted to males.  If your significant other is asking to do it to you, it probably means it will turn her on.  And, once you learn how to relax, it will turn you on too.  Have you ever hear of the p-spot?  It's the male equivalent of the g-spot on women.  And yes, it really exists.  And... it feels REALLY good when it's stimulated.  Have you ever wanted to have multiple orgasms during one sex session, like women can?  With p-spot stimulation, it's possible. And there are even actual health benefits from stimulating your prostate.  According to an article on
ImpotenceImpotence is generally defined as the inability to achieve an erection. Prostate massage can help men overcome impotence by stimulating the flow of seminal fluid and increasing circulation, according to
Pain / SwellingA swollen prostate gland can be quite uncomfortable. Every time you sit down, pressure will build around the prostate. Regular prostate massage can help reduce swelling by releasing fluids and stimulating blood flow through the area. If you have been diagnosed with prostate cancer, consult with a licensed therapist and your doctor before trying prostate massage.
Improved EjaculationThe intensity of your ejaculation can be improved through prostate massage. Many men report heightened sexual experiences when the prostate is stimulated, and regular massage can create an "exploding" ejaculation, according to
Increased Urine FlowEnlargement of the prostate gland is one cause of difficulty with urine flow, according to the University of Maryland Medical Center. The reduction of pressure from released fluids during prostate massage can help get urine flow back to normal.
Providing you learn how to relax, and you use plenty of lube, and keep an open mind, you men out there have the potential to completely transform your sex life.  There is of course a method to this whole p-spot massage thing though, just like there is to anal sex.  There are a few ways to go about it.  One way is with a prostate massager that is specifically designed to stimulate the right areas.  If you would like to read a great post how you can achieve a 'super-orgasm' with a prostate massager, check out Prostate Massagers and the Super Orgasm.

The bottom (no pun intended) line is this:  The anus and rectal area is riddled with sensitive nerve endings.  You don't have to be a masochist to enjoy anal sex.  It can actually feel good.  The chicks in porn movies aren't faking it.  (Well, they might be.... but they certainly aren't being injured.)  If you are interested in trying anal sex, or maybe ready to try it again, I highly recommend that you buy Jessica Drake's Guide to Wicked Sex: Anal

Hopefully you have learned a thing or two from this article, and anal sex is at least a little less taboo for you.

Yours Truly,
Tessa Taboo ~xoxo~

A giveaway!

In case you hadn't heard, I've reached 50+ fans on my facebook page!  So, as I promised, there is a SWEET giveaway going on!

I am giving away a Twisted Hearts Seduction vibrator from Doc Johnson!

In order to enter, just click this link and follow the instructions!

Wednesday, November 30, 2011

Why Are Things Taboo?

Wikipedia defines 'taboo' as:  a strong social prohibition (or ban) relating to any area of human activity or social custom that is sacred and or forbidden based on moral judgment, religious beliefs and or scientific consensus.

So that tells us something right there.  It's society's views on certain things that make it taboo.  But why?  Why have some things that are so normal become such a horrible thing to talk about, or admit to?  It can be anything from having certain illnesses, to certain things that turn you on, to your religious preferences.  And things that are taboo here in America, are considered taboo in other places and vice versa.  

It seems like certain things that are taboo tend to become the norm, or at least socially accepted, over time.  Things like divorce, mental disorders, equal rights, amongst others, are now more socially acceptable to bring up at the dinner table than they were, say, 20 years ago.  Just look at the things that are on television now, and in music lyrics, compared to 20 years ago.  

We may not ever understand why there is a certain stigma about certain things that make them so hard to talk about, or make us feel so ashamed.  But one thing is for certain:  It doesn't matter what it is, there are other people like you, that have a tie to that same stigma.  Whether it be a sexual fetish that turn you both on, a secret disease you are hiding from your family, the fact that you are into cannibalism, that you secretly like Twilight, or whatever.  You are not alone.  The only thing that makes you feel alone is the shame and guilt that society puts on the things that you want to talk about, but feel like you can't.  

Feel alone no more.  This is why I'm here.  I'm going to attempt to bring into the mainstream, some of the things that people just don't want to talk about.  I'm going to make people know that they are not alone.  

So please, if you have something you would like me to cover, send me an email at, or use the handy form here on my blog.  Rest assured, I will never use your name unless you ask me to.  

Also, I'm going to start a feature called Fantasy Fridays.  If you have a fantasy that you would like to write about, feel free to email it to me, and I will put it up anonymously, or link back to your blog, if you like!

Yours Truly,
Tessa Taboo ~xoxo~

Monday, November 28, 2011

An introduction is in order....

I'm Tessa Taboo.  I'm here to be your resource to anything and everything that you consider too off-limits to talk about with people you know.  While most of the time, these things center around sex, and kinky fetishes, it can be about anything.

I'll be writing articles about things that come up, and if you have something burning in the back of that head of yours, just itching to get asked, just click that tab up there that says Tell Me Your Secrets.  If you ask about it, I promise, I will write about it.

Nothing will be taboo when I'm done here.

Yours Truly,
Tessa Taboo